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Third Rule

July 17, 2011 — Leave a comment

Third Rule of Social Mastery

Control Your Emotions

You must recognize that social game is fundamentally a system governed by patterns, with the goal of any given interaction being the acquisition of power. Do not judge what a person says or does based on your emotional response to it; instead, view it with a clear head and reason as your primary guide. You will inevitably experience anger, irritation, guilt, sadness, etc, in response to situations and interactions that vary individualistically. Experiencing this spectrum of emotions is fine, and any attempt at suppression is doomed to fail. Instead, experience the emotions, and use them as imply another source of information in judging or determining your course of action/speech. Never fall into the trap of being guided solely by your emotions; not only will this weaken your game, but will place tremendous power in the hands of those around you. By simply recognizing what makes you angry or joyous or sad, they will be able to manipulate your actions.

An excellent juxtaposition of two such opposing mindsets—-one in which the individual is guided primarily by his emotional mechanisms, and one in which he is led by the reasoning of a clear mind—-is presented in the Coppola’s The Godfather’, with the brothers Sonny and Michael Corleone. Sonny’s inclination to react immediately to his emotions (primarily an easily triggered anger) renders him an simple target of assassination. In contrast, Michael’s ability to remain cold and calculating irrespective of external circumstance, allows him to annihilate his enemies completely, and establish his power as the new Don. The character of Michael Corleone illustrates the Third Rule with near perfection. Remember: reason/rationality are your greatest allies in social game, and in the ultimate quest for power.

Second Rule

July 3, 2011 — 2 Comments

Second Rule of Social Mastery

(2) View all other individuals as tools for your own gain

This is controversial, but only because it is effective. To arrive at this rule, one must first grasp, after wading through piles of fake moral constructs and politically correct bullshit, that each individual views you, whether conscious or subconsciously, as a tool to be used. They may desire to use you to fulfill some psychological need or for a more direct and obvious material/existential need.

(An example of ‘Psychological Need’ that is almost universally common in human culture:  Many parents, especially mothers, have a need to control their children. The kids must follow rules, arbitrary or not, helpful or not, precisely because it gives the parent a sense of power and control. To many such parents, losing that control is equivalent to losing the child. )

If you are, then, prone to naivete and believe that everyone wants to help you and provide you with security, you will live a painful and poor quality of life. Some may call me a cynic, arguing that my view of human nature is debasing. To them, those so afraid of reality that they must deny it at very turn, I respond: (1) I do not hide from the dark crevices of reality.  (2) ’tis better to be a cynic/realist in power than an idealist who is shitted on by everyone he meets.

Thus, to prevent being used, one must actively do the using. Enter any social interaction with the following mindset: what do I have to gain from this individual? And how do I communicate (verbally and nonverbally) to best meet my needs?

Remember: You are above else. Your needs, your happiness, your desires. The purpose of social mastery is to acquire great skill with utilizing and manipulating others into doing as you wish. And therein, lies the Second Rule.

First Rule

July 3, 2011 — 5 Comments

The first rule to follow before beginning on any path, and particularly important in the path to attaining social mastery:

First Rule of Social Mastery

(1) Fear nothing

In modern society, we do not have threats that engender or require legitimate fear–the chemically driven fight or flight response that our ancestors depended on for survival. No, our fears are much more subtle, but also all-encompassing and constant. More or less, we fear others. And this fear, revealed as social anxiety and discomfort especially among young males, can be disarmed by remembering this appendage to the first rule of social mastery:

Do not fear what they say.

Do not fear what they do. 

Do not fear what they think.

Without this to hold onto–without a grounding in fearlessness–social mastery becomes impossible. Our own emotions will act against us, preventing experimentation with different configurations of words, body language, voice tone and other social indicators. We must, necessarily, become free from our mechanisms.

It is important to remember, however, that just wanting to be fearless will not make it so. To conquer one’s fears, one must face them. If you are afraid of saying something you perceive would result in disapproval from the other party, do it anyways. Do it precisely because it makes you afraid. As you keep at it, these experiences will add up, and produce a growing fearlessness. You will find your social anxieties dissipating. The first step to social mastery, then, is finding what makes you afraid, and facing it head-on. Needless to say, this requires balls.