Third Rule of Social Mastery
Control Your Emotions
You must recognize that social game is fundamentally a system governed by patterns, with the goal of any given interaction being the acquisition of power. Do not judge what a person says or does based on your emotional response to it; instead, view it with a clear head and reason as your primary guide. You will inevitably experience anger, irritation, guilt, sadness, etc, in response to situations and interactions that vary individualistically. Experiencing this spectrum of emotions is fine, and any attempt at suppression is doomed to fail. Instead, experience the emotions, and use them as imply another source of information in judging or determining your course of action/speech. Never fall into the trap of being guided solely by your emotions; not only will this weaken your game, but will place tremendous power in the hands of those around you. By simply recognizing what makes you angry or joyous or sad, they will be able to manipulate your actions.
An excellent juxtaposition of two such opposing mindsets—-one in which the individual is guided primarily by his emotional mechanisms, and one in which he is led by the reasoning of a clear mind—-is presented in the Coppola’s The Godfather’, with the brothers Sonny and Michael Corleone. Sonny’s inclination to react immediately to his emotions (primarily an easily triggered anger) renders him an simple target of assassination. In contrast, Michael’s ability to remain cold and calculating irrespective of external circumstance, allows him to annihilate his enemies completely, and establish his power as the new Don. The character of Michael Corleone illustrates the Third Rule with near perfection. Remember: reason/rationality are your greatest allies in social game, and in the ultimate quest for power.